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    许海峰主页 >> 文章 >> 随笔 >> 浏览信息《“餐桌教子”不可取》

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    星期五   晴天 
    主题 “餐桌教子”不可取

     

    餐桌教子不可取

    无锡市新区南星苑小学  许海峰 

    周末,我们几位好友相约在一同学家聚餐。席间,我们邀请同学的儿子一起用餐。同学说,这次期中测验,小孩考得不够理想,被他狠狠地教育了一番,这几天“老实”多了。期间,一位朋友夹了几块孩子喜欢吃的牛肉给他。同学立即说:“看!叔叔给你夹菜,以后学习可要认真点。”话音刚落,孩子脸上的表情立即“晴转多云”了。随着他爸爸的训斥,孩子的眼泪竟“扑簌扑簌”地流了下来。

    这种“餐桌教子”的情况十分普遍。究其原因,主要是现在的孩子每天一早就上学,中午也大多在学校用餐,直到晚上才有机会和父母见面、聊天。而父母呢,忙完一天,坐在餐桌前时,才有充分的时间和孩子交流、沟通。于是,晚餐期间自然而然就演变成了孩子学习情况的汇报时间。如果孩子被老师批评了或者考试成绩不理想的话,好端端的晚餐就可能变成了对孩子的“批斗大会”。孰不知,这样的“批斗大会”是万万开不得的。餐桌是全家团圆、感情汇聚的一块欢乐之地,可以讲讲工作中的趣闻,也可利用间隙听孩子讲讲学习中的收获,当然适时地对孩子进行一些思想教育也未尝不可,但绝不能利用这一时光对孩子严厉的批评、指责。更严重的是“餐桌教子”对孩子的生理、心理都是一种摧残:一、容易造成生理危机。试想,当孩子遭受父母的训斥后,他们怎么可能还会保持一份好的心情去用餐呢?长此以往,孩子就会产生条件反射,一到用餐时间,潜意识里就会反应为又是挨训时间,那他对用餐就会产生逆反心理,逐渐导致厌食等恶果的出现。二、容易导致心理偏差。如果家长只是一味地批评,会让孩子遭受较重的压力,造成心理压抑,情绪低落,使两代人之间的隔阂越来越深,影响感情。另外,有时孩子为了免遭批评,就可能故意不将“丑事”外扬,甚至说一些假话欺瞒父母,使父母听不到真话。久而久之,逐渐养成说谎等恶习。

    古话说:“玉不琢,不成器。”我们为人父为人母者确实需要经常对孩子进行教育、指引,但关键是要找准“琢”的时机,选择好“琢”的方式,千万不可选择“餐桌教子”这一有百害而无一利的教育方式。                    

                                                                   此文发表于《家教周报》

     

    许海峰 发表于:2009-10-16 20:58:44

    评论 赞成

    教子有方哦!学习学习

    成芳洁 发表于:2009-10-26 15:56:21

    评论 你好!

    一点真实感悟而已,也请每位家长在教育孩子时,注意寻找合适的环境。

    许海峰 发表于:2009-11-26 9:04:48

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    餐桌是全家团圆、感情汇聚的一块欢乐之地,可以讲讲工作中的趣闻,也可利用间隙听孩子讲讲学习中的收获,当然适时地对孩子进行一些思想教育也未尝不可,但绝不能利用这一时光对孩子严厉的批评、指责。
    勇者无惧 发表于:2009-12-9 12:45:07

    评论 勇者无惧老师好!

    感谢光临!祝元旦快乐!
    许海峰 发表于:2009-12-10 16:25:56

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    许老师真是不简单!全能。
    天使唯一 发表于:2010-5-28 15:33:17

    评论 天使唯一老师好!

    感谢你光临我的博客,你真的是过奖了,谢谢!
    许海峰 发表于:2010-6-1 14:02:17

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    学习了
    吕士胜 发表于:2010-10-2 16:55:14

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    理想的教子时机应该是随时随地随事的。

    马云初 发表于:2011-5-5 13:58:13

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    餐桌教子,确实很普遍。值得重视!
    海音 发表于:2011-5-8 10:57:10

    评论 eeer

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    水之恋 发表于:2012-1-16 23:16:52

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